Being in a close relationship to someone with an addictive behaviour can be like riding an emotional rollercoaster. Grief,
anger, resentment, frustration, hope, disgust and disappointment can all be part of a volatile mix.
With so much time and energy focussed on the problems of the other person, it can be easy to lose sight of what is important in your
The Be SMART Program has been designed to assist people who are affected by the addictive behaviour of someone close to them.
The program aims to help participants develop more effective coping strategies and find a greater sense of fulfilment.
The program recognises that being in a close relationship with someone struggling with an addiction can be a frustrating, painful
and sometimes lonely journey, in which it is easy to lose one’s bearings.
Rather than focussing on the other person, the program invites participants to spend some time concentrating on themselves and their
goals, an area they may have been neglecting for some time. It also includes looking at some of their habitual responses to the other person and exploring whether these are helpful or not.
The eight-week group program explores ways that participants can look after themselves better, even in difficult and stressful
circumstances, and promote healthier relationships with the other person.
The Be SMART program runs over eight weeks. It uses the four key points of SMART Recovery, namely:
1. Finding the motivation to change
2. Developing helpful coping strategies
3. Problem solving
4. Finding a lifestyle balance
The following are some worksheets that have been adapted from Be SMART to provide you a “taster” of the program and give you
some new ideas. Whether you are in a remote area without much access to help or thinking of doing the Be SMART Program, these worksheets are a good starting point.